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Get Out Of Your Own Way

Get Out Of Your Own Way

Isn’t it interesting how people always talk about their haters? Songs are written about them, arguments have started because of them, and we see memes on social media concerning haters daily. How many have heard or even used the saying, “My haters are my elevators?” Yes. I have too.

I want to let you in on a little secret. Your haters are not the problem. You are.

I know I probably lost you right there but hear me out. I once heard a wise woman named Pastor Regina Harris say “Haters are not my elevators. That means they would determine how high I can go.” That totally blew my mind. I, too, have gotten on the “my haters” train and that knocked the wheels off my caboose. We give haters too much power. No one determines my success, purpose, or how far I rise.

Modesty: What's The Big Deal

Modesty: What's The Big Deal

I’m sure many of you have been paying attention to the trending news with Ayesha Curry’s comment a few months ago on modesty and more recently Devon Franklin coming to the defense of his wife, Meagan Good, after a woman rudely (in my opinion) made a comment in regards to her choice of clothing. To clarify, no - I don’t think that was the time or the place for that woman to address Meagan about her wardrobe. She missed a ripe opportunity to have a great conversation and better understand why Meagan chooses to wear what she does. Ultimately, they are two grown adults. She can dress how she wants to and if neither she nor her husband are convicted about it, then sometimes it’s best to just pray for people instead of inserting your two cents. Yes, I do believe Devon was right for standing up for his wife. Where Devon lost me was when he said, “She can wear what she wants to wear in the name of Jesus!”. I cringed a little when that came across his lips. My dude...really?! He may have meant every word that he said, but I hope in hindsight he realizes that his delivery there could have been better.